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You’re Not Lazy. Maybe You’re Self-Sabotaging | Mid Week Tease artwork

You’re Not Lazy. Maybe You’re Self-Sabotaging | Mid Week Tease

Legally Clueless
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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks self-sabotage, what it really is, where it comes from, and how it quietly shows up in your daily life. If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, inconsistent, or undisciplined, this episode invites you to look deeper. Self-sabotage isn’t random. It’s patterned, protective, and often rooted in early beliefs about who you are and what you deserve. In this episode, Adelle explores the psychology behind self-sabotage, why chaos can feel more comfortable than peace, and how fear of being seen might be keeping you stuck. Most importantly, she shares practical ways to begin shifting these patterns, without shame, and without becoming someone else. In this episode, we cover: What self-sabotage actually is (and why it’s not laziness)How childhood experiences shape your patterns (inspired by Alfred Adler)Why your nervous system chooses familiar pain over unfamiliar peaceThe subtle ways self-sabotage shows up (procrastination, perfectionism, overthinking)The fear of being seen and how it keeps you playing smallWhy it’s so hard to stop self-sabotagingSimple, realistic ways to start shifting your patternsListen to The Mid Week Tease A Legally Clueless Africa show, new episodes out every Wednesday on our podcast channel everywhere you stream podcasts. Connect with us: Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

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