← Legally Clueless
The Life Box: A Simple Practice That Reminds You You’re Loved | Mid Week Tease artwork

The Life Box: A Simple Practice That Reminds You You’re Loved | Mid Week Tease

Legally Clueless
15:03
Play episode

Show notes

Some days we forget. We forget how loved we are. We forget the moments that made us proud. We forget the days we laughed until our stomach hurt. And it’s not because those moments didn’t happen. Psychology shows that our brains have a negativity bias, meaning painful experiences stick longer than joyful ones. Over time, our minds can begin to tell us a story that life has mostly been difficult, even when joy has been present all along. In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle shares a practice she calls The Life Box. It’s exactly what it sounds like: a physical box filled with small objects that hold memories of love, joy, pride, and meaningful moments. Inside her life box are things like: • Letters from friends • A birthday card from her mum from when she turned 10 • Receipts from favorite solo trips • Bicycle tour receipts from one of her favorite activities • A memory card filled with career highlights she’s proud of • And even memes that made her laugh during different seasons of life It’s a small box, but it holds powerful reminders of a life that has contained joy. In this episode, Adelle explores the psychology behind why practices like this matter, including: • Negativity bias, why our brains remember pain more strongly than joy • Savoring, a positive psychology practice that helps us re-experience joyful memories • Attachment theory, how reminders of love help regulate our nervous system • Why creating a personal archive of joyful moments can support emotional resilience She also shares simple ways you can create your own version of a life box, including: • A joy folder on your phone • A memory jar • A gratitude or joy journal • A voice note archive for your future self • A digital highlight reel of moments that made you proud Because sometimes what we need most is evidence. Evidence that we have been loved. Evidence that joy has visited our lives before. Evidence that beautiful moments have already happened, and will happen again. Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Share your story on the Legally Clueless podcast: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

More from this show

More
  1. The Problem With Women Who Say "Could Never Be Me" | Mid Week Tease

    "Could never be me!" How often have you heard women say this when another woman shares her experience of heartbreak, betrayal, or a harmful relationship?But what if this response…

    27:06
  2. She Lost Her Parents, Her Home & Had to Fight to Survive | Legally Clueless Ep 400

    She Lost Her Parents, Her Home & Had to Fight to Survive | Daughtie's Story (Part 1) What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you become the very people who hurt…

    47:04
  3. She Survived The Abuse. Why Was She Carrying The Shame? | For Mannerless Women

    What happens when you stop carrying shame that was never yours to begin with? In this deeply personal Season 6 finale of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with award-…

    01:09:08
  4. You're Not Bitter. Maybe Your Anger Is Trying To Tell You Something. | Mid Week Tease

    Have you ever felt angry about something that happened months or even years ago, then immediately felt guilty for not being over it? Women are often taught to be patient, forgivin…

    23:06
  5. He Called It Love. It Was Coercive Control PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 399

    In the concluding part of Makena's story, a terrifying suspicion becomes reality when she confronts her partner about accessing her private conversations and information on her pho…

    E39944:38
  6. Who Benefits When Women Make Themselves Smaller? | For Mannerless Women

    Who benefits when women believe they are too loud, too angry, too ambitious or simply too much? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with feminist activist and Exec…

    01:01:15
Now Playing