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The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Stay In Relationships | Mid Week Tease

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Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while.This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories we tell ourselves when we're trying to stay in relationships we've already begun to outgrow: maybe I need to give it more time, maybe I'm expecting too much, but they're a good person, maybe I haven't communicated clearly enough, what if I regret leaving? She explores self-abandonment, the sunk-cost fallacy, our attachment to potential, the difference between intuition and anxiety, and why we sometimes keep asking for another sign when our bodies have been giving us information all along. Plus, a question worth sitting with:If you trusted yourself completely, what would you already know? In this episode: Why “relationships are hard” can keep us tolerating chronic unhappinessFalling in love with someone's potential instead of the relationship you actually haveWhy someone doesn't have to be a bad person for you to leaveThe sunk-cost fallacy and staying because you've already invested yearsWhen communication becomes negotiating against realityListening to your gut without treating every uncomfortable feeling as intuitionWhy fear of what comes after leaving can masquerade as uncertainty about whether to leaveHow self-abandonment slowly erodes self-trustQuestions to ask yourself when you know something isn't workingNew episodes of the Mid Week Tease every Wednesday. JOIN THE LEGALLY CLUELESS COMMUNITY Sign up for our newsletter: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Follow Legally Clueless Africa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ Follow us on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube SHARE YOUR STORY WITH US Have a story you’d like to share on the Legally Clueless podcast? Submit it here: https://forms.gle/JMrQD55jcrazKFKX7

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