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Stop Shrinking Yourself: Why Women Downplay Their Power & How to Expand Anyway | Mid Week Tease

Legally Clueless
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Are you shrinking yourself to feel safer, more lovable, less intimidating? In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle reflects on the quiet ways women, especially African women, make themselves smaller in their careers, relationships, and ambitions. Inspired by her recent conversation with Ruth Tanui on Difference She Makes, this episode explores: The psychology behind the confidence gapWhy women hesitate to apply even when qualifiedThe social conditioning that teaches girls to be excellent but not intimidatingThe myth of “scaring men away” with successHow to build confidence by acting before you feel readyPractical mindset shifts to stop downplaying your powerDrawing on research from Albert Bandura on self-efficacy, social psychology studies on the backlash effect, and insights from thinkers like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and Warsan Shire, this episode invites you to examine where you may be shrinking and what expansion could look like instead. If you have ever: Downplayed your titleSoftened your ambitionHidden your successHesitated to applyMade yourself smaller to feel saferThis conversation is for you. You do not have to shrink to be chosen. You do not have to dim to be loved. You are allowed to expand. Watch Difference She Makes featuring Ruth Tanui here: https://youtu.be/1DBpamU6VXQ Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

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