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The Discomfort Of No Longer People Pleasing | Mid Week Tease

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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the emotional discomfort that can come with finally standing up for yourself after years of people pleasing, weak boundaries, over-giving and self-abandonment. From romantic relationships to friendships, this episode explores what happens when you stop shrinking yourself to keep other people comfortable. Why does setting boundaries feel guilty? Why does speaking up sometimes feel physically uncomfortable? Why do some relationships become strained when you finally choose yourself? Adelle reflects on a recent personal trigger and unpacks the realization that changed everything: “The discomfort wasn’t coming from doing something wrong. The discomfort came from doing something different.” This episode dives into: People pleasing and the “fawn response”Why boundaries can trigger anxietyRomantic relationships built on self-sacrificeFriendship dynamics and emotional laborWhy healing can make others uncomfortableThe grief of outgrowing unhealthy dynamicsLearning to tolerate the discomfort of self-respectIf you’ve ever: struggled to say no,replayed conversations after asserting yourself,felt guilty for having needs,feared disappointing people,or confused self-sacrifice with love,this episode is for you. Newsletter signup: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Follow Legally Clueless Africa: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Share your story with us: https://forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

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